Clarity

Without realizing it we get in our own way so much. I am notorious for this. Sometimes it is difficult to recognize what makes you suffer because you haven’t given yourself the opportunity to step back from the momentum of your old life. 

When you do, quite often you can see what is actually happening. The pain of being stuck in your old resentment can AND will drag you down my peeps. & sometimes the belief in your constructing thoughts can eat away at you subconsciously and the chaos from letting your feelings rule will follow. 

GOAL: Clarity

Get our of your own way. Stop resisting your current life. Shift your focus from what you dont have to what is here and available. && Stop doubting every LITTLE thing and allow yourself to receive what you’re being offered. 

Lets be real, raw & exposed here. All of us live in a mind-created past or future and often struggle to simply live in the n o w and just be. When you are clouded by mental noise – you begin to resent yourself. 

Tell yourself the truth about what is and isnt working and reflect… when we take time to reflect we allow our mind (which is normally so full of thoughts) to be still. 

TO: All of you clouded by your own shadow (myself included) 

Focus on:

  1. Self nurture – show yourself some love & be patient
  2. Make time for reflection – do what brings you peace
  3. Rediscover what makes you happy – think back to when you were happiest and what your passions are
  4. Take 1 step in the direction you WANT to head – you will gain momentum by taking your first step- find your accountability buddy
  5. Reinvent – this is literally the most fascinating piece of advice I have ever received. it is never too late to reinvent yourself – even Maya Angelou agrees on this :p

From this moment forwards who do you want to become? what do you want to do?

– ask yourself this –

do you WANT to WANT it?

Or do you actually w a n t it. 

 

~ It’s a ripple effect. Heal yourself, heal the world. You’re capable 🙂

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Goals & Obstacles

Obstacles are detours in the right direction – Gabrielle Bernstein

There are so many things that get in the way of achieving your goals. Doing your best does not always mean to be the best – doing your best means to never stop trying.

Personally, this summer began with a long list of goals and a meticulously planned schedule for everything I wish to accomplish. I have always had big eyes and high hopes for what I would like to accomplish BUT more often than not we encounter obstacles that can be discouraging and make our goals feel un-attainable.

Essentially, anything that diverts our attention away from our goals can take a huge toll on you and your outlook.

Even when obstacles are temporary they still take away from who you strive to be. I am constantly in a state of reminding myself to objectively assess the roadblocks set in front of me and step away from my emotions, anxiety or stress (sometimes all three) in order to identify a new route and keep moving forward.

&& we must ALWAYS, always, move forward – even if its at a snails pace (it’s a lot easier said than done – and evidently… life will get in the way- BUT we cannot let unanticipated disappointment undermine our momentum).

Everything is ALL right.

Nurture your desire.

Don’t spend time criticizing yourself, re-frame the situation and do something to rekindle your desire.

TIP: Take time for yourself, review your goals and adjust where need be.

Birth Control & Periods

Girly post alert…

Ohh the joys of growing up…

There is so much apprehension going on today regarding birth control and the benefits of it. Each woman has the right to consciously decide what they do to their body. When I went to my doctor to go on birth control I got anxious due to my medical history that it would do more harm then good – so I had to go to a specialist. When I first started it I thought “hmm, sounds viable, I’ll give it a go”.

I have never really struggled with heavy periods or excessive cramps – I consider myself quite lucky in this regard. My main struggle has always been hormonal acne (oh, yay). As soon as I started it my body reacted and responded in a way I did not anticipate. So eventually, I hit a point where I said “hell no! this is not me!” My friends were telling me I was not my normal self.. So I think maybe the point slapped me in the face and I decided to listen – lol. I am so thankful that I did and listened to my intuition and friends. Fake hormones did not react well for me and did not work out. Sorry to my friends that had to put up with birth control Amy.

After going off the pill I began talking to some of my friends who also shared their horror stories of different pills and the way their bodies reacted. Don’t get me wrong – if it works for you by all means, you do you girl!! But I believe that for me the fake hormones made me into someone I am not and I acted in ways that I am not proud of. Crazy how one little pill can have a big impact.

Personally, I have always struggled with some sort of hormonal imbalance but was not educated on why or how. The older I get the more interested in natural techniques and wellness I become. Now, don’t get me wrong. Natural methods are not the easiest. It certainly takes persistence and an interest in wanting to do what is best for your body. Without falling into peer pressure or living your life for others.

Like I mentioned, a HUGE factor to Birth Control that compelled me to want to stay on it was the fear of my acne getting worse. Awful, being 22 and having acne. It is one of the things that get me self conscious – especially when I am meeting clients and parents. I feel like I look 12. Although that has been a side effect of me going off birth control, I decided I have to pick and choose my battles. Quite frankly my peeps, life is all about picking and choosing your battles and always looking for the good in every situation. Going through what I have been on my pill journey I have learned a lot about myself.

With that being said, I have now been off Birth Control for about 3 months now and it was one of the most important decisions I have made for my body. So far, I have not had any relapse of going off the pill except acne. However, emotionally I feel SOO much more stable. Your acne will eventually become at bay my peeps. Keep reminding yourself that it does not define you (this is a constant reminder to myself). If someone defines you by your looks and are not interest in getting to know who you are they are not worth your time (MOVE FORWARD, MOVE ON – or as my sister will say “throw out the Kleenex”).

All in all, learn to be in tune with your body and be able to recognize changes that happen with any medication. Always have open communication and be honest with whoever you trust and are with. It is so important.

Whatever floats your boat my peeps.

Keep working on yourself because you are all amazing ❤

Move Forward

MOVE ONWARD MY PEEPS!

Always think about moving forward! Progressing further. Seeking something greater, always. This world has so much to offer, it is up to you to find it. Sitting on the couch looking like a potato isn’t helping you find better or be the best version of yourself.

Think about it..

Are you actually the person you say you want to be?
Do your words, actions, choices, and behaviours reflect the version of yourself you feel best about?
Are you proud of who you are?
Are you confident that others would describe you in the way you ideally want to be described?
What does it mean to be that person?
What does that person prioritize?
How does that person love others?
How do they show gratitude?
What does that person stand for?

Look at yourself. Be critical. BUT be nice to yourself. Some truth may sting, but thats the point. If you know that your words and actions are not reflecting the best version of yourself, lean into space.

We ALL have room to rise up and improve. We all have room to identify how we get in the way of our own life. Challenging you to decide how you want to be, decide what areas need attention, and live each day one day at a time committed to creating the best version of yourself. That person you want to be.

You all got this and you can all do it ❤

 

Finding Comfort in the Chaos

Hey my peeps.

I’ll be honest, the past few weeks and this past weekend in general have probably been one of the more stressful times I have had… Hence my writing thoughts that I hope make sense to the virtual world out there.

Something I have learned recently, with the help of a friend giving me a strong push and helping me find where my headspace is, is that stress is about perceptions.

How you think about and deal with tough situations. I truly have been trying to trust the path that my life takes… With the belief that everything happens for a reason and everything will work out as it is suppose to. Any negative or challenging situation is seen as a learning experience. While, at times this is difficult to learn from a situation and move the HECK on. Since it is easier to stay stuck on a certain idea or thought in your head… But seriously, don’t focus on the past. It is in the past for a reason. Setting goals and looking at what is in front of you is truly the way to go.

Asking:

  • What can I do in this moment to accelerate forward ?
  • What can I do to become a better version of myself?

It’s kind of like lego… piece by piece, layer by layer, small adjustments add to BIG results.

All in all, your life is a reflection of what you think. But in life, you also attract into life what you judge.

Realize:

  • Other peoples opinions do NOT define you
  • You do not owe anyone anything
  • No-one can change your life for you
  • Learn to grow from what people have to offer you
  • You have the capacity to love others and yourself infinitely
  • MINDSET is everything – be in touch with your higher self.

Stress is something that happens – you cannot avoid it.

Stress keeps you sharp – it challenges you in ways you never imagined and forces you to solve issues and manage situations. Stress enables you to grow. In face, you cannot succeed without stress. Your level of success is defined by how well you embrace and manage it. You hold all the power my peeps.

Remember:

The best things in life take time…

and you have time.

XX,

Ames

I’ll Make You Better

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A song came on my playlist today and it said “I’ll make you better”…

My peeps, it got me thinking:

Make some else’s life better. 

We are designed to live in a sense of community. We are destined to have empathy and sympathy for others. We are designed to make each others live better.

Limiting ourselves is appearing to be today’s standard and is everywhere we look in our daily lives. DON’T be today’s standard. Instead, stand out.

However you see it, despite what we may see, I choose to believe humanity has an incredibly powerful way of stepping up when we need it the most.

Who are you helping by your day to day living? It can be as simple as sharing a smile with someone, or reaching out to help someone in need.

Think of the big picture.
Think about your dreams, goals, and ambitions and how they will affect and impact the lives of others.
If you choose not to pursue your dream, who will brighten the lives of those counting on you?

No matter your dream, fitness, music, business, being motivational, etc. When people understand the heart of why you’re doing what you’re doing, lives are impacted. And you goal will ripple.

All in all, make someone else’s life better.

XX,

Ames

Energy Spent on Worries

Today I was sent a text from a friend it said the quote:

“Worrying is not a good use of energy”

I have come to realize that every obstacle is only a stepping stone. Being given this powerful saying about worry resonates with me because I suffer from being an overanxious thinking and worry is like my middle name.

However, useless worrying is detrimental to our mental and physical well-being, our sane decision making, our stress levels, things that keep us up at night and can essentially erode our happiness and mindset.

A life skill that I am currently in the process of learning is to understand how to better separate the good worry that protects us, from the useless worry, that harms us.

This is vital to your sanity. 

By no means am I saying not to care about anything or never to worry. What I am trying to get at here is that worrying is inevitable, but being able to harness what you worry about and being in control of your anxious states is crucial. Become conscious of what you worry about. Make sure its something that is worth your time. We give so much needless attention to things that do not deserve to be worried about.

This is a new mindset I am in the process of adapting. I have been reading a perspective book: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. Thanks to this book and a few people who have given me a good shake I am on the track to worrying less.

If you need a good book my peeps, check it out.

XX,

Ames